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Let’s Be Clear: Nicki Minaj

It seems as if my earlier post gave off the wrong impression, so I decided to try and clear things up.

Given my feelings about the open letter that was written, it looks like that was taken as an endorsement of sorts for Nicki Minaj and her “Anaconda” cover. And those of you who left with that impression couldn’t be further from the truth.

1. I, in fact, don’t like it.  But. I also recognize that she is grown and can do what she wants.  My feelings about that letter are simply about him using his young daughter to chastise her.  And to be honest, from how young he makes her sound, even if Nicki was fully clothed, his daughter has no business listening to her in the first place.

Had he written this letter as a man…PERIOD…telling a queen that she doesn’t have to do that to sell records, THAT I would’ve appreciated.  Not using his kid, not using her responsibility as a leader and role model (which isn’t her fault, by the way), but just as a brother talking to his sister. Period.

2. Some feel as if Nicki owes society and should know better than to put images out like this.  And this is how I feel about that. We are expecting these recent artists to carry the same feelings of responsibility to society as in the past. And…it simply isn’t like that.  And I’m not saying that’s okay. Man…do you know how powerful it would be if these artists refused to put their money in some places? Refused to have anything to do with Florida? DEMANDED change in nationwide police practices? Called for a boycott of certain brands, etc? Do you understand how much of an impact that would have?

We are in a time where Rihanna can show off damn near her entire body, and be hailed as some type of fashion icon for it.  That’s where we are.  We are living in a time where black artists JUMP to the defense of a white artist using the “n-word”…mainly because they don’t want to mess up their money.

This is a picture taken in 1989 of artists coming together to boycott the Grammy’s because they wouldn’t televise their award categories. Do you think that will happen today?

So, yeah.  Our young ladies and young men are in trouble.  The images they see and, even worse, the celebrations of said images are what they have to go on.  Even though they (may) have people in their ear telling them, “you don’t have to do that.” But.  What they see tho….

3.  I’m irritated at this because Nicki Minaj DOES have a point.  The smaller framed, white images that are posted in thongs get celebrated on the cover of magazines.  They are being sexy.  And they are given accolades for that.  But Nicki, who has a big butt, gets chastised? Am I trying to make this a race thing? No, but let’s not ignore the facts.

4. I’m irritated because where are the open letters from owners of hip-hop websites to get male artists in line? Do you hear how they talk about women? Hell, Rick Ross blatantly talked about drugging and then having sex with women? Where is the call, from owners, to check him? Women are talked about as pieces of property who are good for nothing other than (maybe consensual) sex in music EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.  Women are casually referred to as hoes and bitches in music EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.  Men make records encouraging their brothers to sell dope. Glorifying violence.

Where is the outrage and open letters from these men who are leaders?

Oh.

Now.  In this, I had to ask myself a couple of questions, and answer them honestly.

1. What about Lil Kim? Foxy Brown? They weren’t the most wholesome images of women either.  True.  But…I think an issue with Nicki is that it seems like she’s been using gimmicks to sell records.  The clothes, wigs, outrageous performances….but what about just…I dunno, rapping (back in the day you really did have to prove yourself as an artist)? Lil Kim and Foxy Brown solidified their places.  We knew what they could do. It just so happened they didn’t like to wear clothes a whole lot…and they were kinda filthy in their lyrics.  But it was never considered to be something they were “leaning” on to sell.  They didn’t have to. But Nicki…”Anaconda” was pushed back but she decided to give us…this in the meantime. So yeah.  That answers my question about that.

2. Now. Y’all know how I feel about my Beyonce.  And if you don’t then I don’t know, you must be new here.  One of her outfits for the On The Run Tour has her butt out.  It’s not a thong, but…well here…

So. Do you have a problem with this, Tasha? Well no.  No I don’t. At all, actually.  Well why not? *shrugs*

I’m sure it has something to do with 1. she’s Beyonce, and 2. there’s NO QUESTION if she’s using gimmicks to sell music.  And it’s on a tour that you had to pay to go to (she was in this outfit for like 2 seconds.  I was kind of disappointed, to be honest), not the cover art for her album. And she’s classy with it. LOL. I can’t explain that, but she just is. I know I’m biased. I KNOW this. But let me move on cause this can turn into a totally different kind of post.

No, I’m not outraged at Nicki.  Just…disappointed.  I just really thought we were going a different direction. And maybe I’m not in the whole “but what about the kids!?” camp, because I simply don’t expect her to care. She hasn’t indicated, at all (to ME, but I also don’t really just follow her like that), that she is out here to protect or be a positive role model for young girls. She’s a raunchy, vulgar rapper. Always has been. And she has multiple pictures of her being damn near naked….that she has voluntarily shared…on her personal social media pages. So yeah. Excuse me if I’m simply not shocked.

Bottom line, there’s one way society can stop artists from putting out these types of images.  There’s one way where we can SHOW (not say) that we won’t tolerate it.  <— STOP. SUPPORTING. IT. Stop paying for the foolishness.  Stop “liking” the half naked pics artists put up. Start expecting talent. Start DEMANDING talent. Period.

But. We all know that’s not gonna happen.  So, we carry on. And I guess we just wait for the next artist to show us their privates, just to get upset, and then request their song on the radio and buy their album. *shrugs*

The Owner of AllHipHop.Com Writes Open Letter to Nicki Minaj (and I react)

…from the perspective of a father.  And I’ll just save my comments for later.

Dear Nicki Minaj,

I own AllHipHop.com.

AllHipHop has been historically uber supportive of the rapper Nicki Minaj. That’s YOU, homie! When I say historically, we can take it all the way back to when you had to stand in line to get into parties or those grimy underground videos you once pumped out on the streets. You know, that period of time before Lil Wayne and Young Money. Along the way, something changed. This isn’t the change everybody wants to talk about though. No hate there. AllHipHop had published an old image for some reason or another some years ago. You remember the one of you licking a lollipop and evoking the now-classic image of Lil Kim in all of her crotchiness? Of course you remember your version of that image, because you asked us to take it down through a member of the team. The team member let us know that Nicki is no longer on that and is doing a lot to promote a new image – “blah blah blah.” 

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But, guess what? Not only do I run AllHipHop, I’m a father, too. For a moment there, I felt like I had briefly peered into the deepest recesses of Nicki Minaj’s true inner self, a being that cares how this ratchet s**t affects my kid. I said to myself, “Self, how cool is this? Nicki is already evolving into somebody that my daughter may get to listen to on my watch. Maybe.” I’ve been in the music game a minute now so I know how it goes. So, when I peeped the artwork for your latest single, I wasn’t even shocked, I was just disappointed. The song: “Anaconda.” The art: your booty in a thong. As a man, I can appreciate the virtues of your perfect posterior. The dad guy is not a happy camper, particularly now that his lil’ girl is transitioning into a young lady. 

Now, the most popular, current Black female rapper starts overtly pushing her hyper-sexualized image again?

Just my luck.

I’m trying to raise a young girl that will eventually grow into someone greater than the both of us. I know that this requires great parenting, great education, great luck and an assortment of great influences. I’m sure you know the influence you wield, but now, if you told the “Barbs” to scratch my eyes out, some would attack without thinking about it. I’m sure some will also replicate the “Anaconda” image without thinking about it too. Your original image already has 256,817  (and counting) likes under the original Instagram picture you posted, so I venture that your average girl could strive to get a couple hundred likes from her friends. Is this the path you want to lead impressionable kids down?

Make no mistake about it, you’re a leader now.

I love the era of Hip-Hop where I found my influences. They were all over the place, ranging from Chuck D and Public Enemy to LL Cool J to KRS-One and Boogie Down Productions and others like De La Soul. Even the so-called gangster rappers had something to offer. Ice Cube, Scarface and Willie D of the Geto Boys, and Ice-T all get nods for being influential in my upbringing. I don’t know all of those that impacted you as a young woman, but how dope would it be if you transcended what people expected of you? Like, how cool would it be for your transformation to extend beyond NOT wearing blonde wigs and crazing clothing?

This year alone, Black people lost titans in Maya Angelou and Ruby Dee. Those women were entertainers as well and the impact they have had on the lives of their constituency can never be understated. They SERVED the people and they knew that–without that mutual love and respect, we both cease to exist. Ruby and Maya didn’t live perfect lives, but their imperfections made their greatness all the more clear. Imagine you being regarded in such a way? The way Lauryn Hill, Queen Latifah and MC Lyte have been for their communities? I know, times have changed, but one thing is for sure: careers can come and go. Legacy stays. 

I can’t lie. My kid barely knows who you are and if she does, its rooted in “American Idol” or something like that. (She does like your bars on “Shanell’s song “Cupid’s Got A Gun.”) I’ve sheltered her on purpose though, all the while letting her read about heroic females in music and culture. As she gets older, it will be harder for me to limit her exposure to you, especially if you continue to do headline-grabbing moves like the “Anaconda” cover. I don’t want to EVER see her posted up one day emulating you the way I “fought the power” like I was Chuck D’s little brother back in 1989. Or, the way you emulated Kim.

 

For a moment, forget my daughter and lets talk about you. My interactions and observations tell me you are this sweet, kind person at heart. When you get a quiet moment answer the following questions.

How is Onika Tanya Maraj doing?

How does she truly feel about Nick Minaj right now?

What is your higher purpose with young girls (and boys)?

What is the message you are sending when you determine how you will inspire these young people?

How will boys, already conditioned to sexualize girls at a young age, internalize this big booty of yours?

Where does the gimmick end and you begin?

Believe it or not, I care. I think you are dope. You’ve bodied some of my favorite artists on songs like “Monster.” Yet the possibly of you transcending this gnaws at me, because I know you don’t have to succumb to bottom feeding.

When the request was made to remove that image from my site, I complied. I complied – not because I had to – but because I truly respected you for taking that position. On the lecture circuit, I’ve even defended you from those that feel you are a detriment to the community, down to the Barbie imagery. (I have no love for Barbie, you know. Read that here.) I’ve done this based on what I think is a glimpse of what you really desire , which is to be a more positive role model of some sort for young girls who are under siege out in these streets. Now, you take this squatting position on the cover of a song called “Anaconda,” which I am sure radio will play until its played out. I’ll be on Spotify though and so will my daughter when she’s with me.

All in all, this is a letter born from love. A love of my kid, a love of Hip-Hop and a love for the potential that lives in one Onika Tanya Maraj aka Nicki Minaj.

One, Chuck Creekmur 

P.S. You think you could follow me on Twitter again? 

{via Mommy Noire}

My thoughts:

Is this dude..SERIOUS right now?  Now, I’m no Nicki Minaj stan, but COME ON.  This woman owes his young child NOTHING. Absolutely NOTHING.

What I want people to do (as I’ve said before), is to stop looking to these celebrities to be role models for their children. Even if Nicki didn’t drop this as her cover, a young child has no business listening to her music anyway.

PARENT YOUR CHILDREN AND STOP BLAMING CELEBRITIES FOR THEIR IMAGES AND MUSIC.

I was “young and impressionable” in the time of Lil Kim.  And you know why I didn’t end up showcasing my lily all over the world? Because I had REAL role models and people who I looked up to.  I was parented.  I was taught was was respectful and what wasn’t. So yeah, what celebrities did didn’t *make* me do anything.

My goodness this is…something.  I don’t even have the words. And while I’m not necessarily saying this is an *okay* image, and while yeah – I agree that she’s using her body/sex to further her career (in this situation), what I ALSO know is that she has a point, here.

Her caption —> “Acceptable”

Her caption —> “Acceptable”

Her caption —> “Acceptable”

Her caption —> “Acceptable”

Her caption —> “Unacceptable”

Yup. Yes, Nicki. Yup.  All of that.  Nicki’s pose and image is ONLY a problem because she is a black woman with a big butt.  PERIOD.  There is no other argument. Those other images were (are) celebrated and, as you can see, on the covers of magazines.

I must admit I was disappointed when I saw this cover the other day.  My disappointment was because I thought that she was just going to…rap.  You know what I mean? So I agree with him on the gimmicks thing. BUT. Let’s not act like sex doesn’t sell.  And let’s not act like WE are the ones buying it. So.  Yeah.  I guess my “disappointment” doesn’t really make sense. And, Chuck has a point about how we see Queen Latifah, etc. I get where he’s coming from with that.  And I agree.  But, those comparisons are long gone. LOOOOOONG gone. I’m just being honest.

Also, let’s be honest….this…isn’t a surprise for her.  I mean, it kind of was because I thought she was going in a different direction, but it just confirmed that she wasn’t.  I do think it’s interesting that she asked AllHipHop.com to pull the other image though. Hmmm.

Again, I think he’s totally out of like to chastise Nicki Minaj because of what HE wants to happen with HIS child.  Unbelievable.  Talk to your children. Not to the artists. Instill in them what your expectations are and explore what their expectations are of themselves.

Customer Service.

There is a SERIOUS lack of customer service.  To the point where I almost don’t want anybody to talk to me at all.  That would probably be better.  It’s gotten to be such a frequent occurrence until I’m starting to wonder if it’s me.  Now, being truthful, I will say that there are days when I’m simply not feeling people in general.  There have been a couple of times when I’ve gone out to run errands, and got pissed off almost everywhere I went.  After seeing that this happened at three different locations in one day, I just figure it isn’t my day to interact with humans and decide to just go home. This has only happened to me like once or twice so far this year though so it’s not that often.

So what I decided to do was to write about it (duh), because I’m honestly wondering if it’s me.  Are my expectations too high?  You can catch one of my AWFUL customer service experiences here —> “Guadalajara del centro Houston Review: Do NOT charge me extra for cheese, bro.” That was so bad.

Anyway, here are my recent experiences.  I’ll also give my expectations so you can tell me if I’m crazy or if I’m asking/expecting too much.

Situation 1

I went to Sally Beauty Supply (6915 FM 1960 WEST STE B, HOUSTON, TX 77069)  one Wednesday evening.  When I walked in the store I heard, “We close in 8 minutes.” I didn’t even pay it any mind because I just KNEW it wasn’t being said to me. I just knew it. But when I realized there was a pause after it was said, and nobody said anything else, I looked over at the cash register and the guy behind the counter was looking directly at me. In my head I said, “Wow.” Out loud I said, “Okay.”

I was there only to grab a hair dryer attachment (and something else I forgot about) so I grabbed that, asked someone sweeping in the back a question (while hearing him greet another customer by saying, “We close in 7 minutes.” Unbelievable)., and went to the cash register.  While I was waiting to be helped, an older gentleman was checking out and asked the guy behind the counter, “Was I fast enough?”  He (the customer) wasn’t smiling. I said, “I know, right?” By this time there was a woman behind the counter about to check me out.  The guy behind the counter said, “Well…we have to close.”  And then the woman who was about to help me said, “I have a two year old at home and…*blah blah.*” He chimed back in and said, “Well I don’t have a two year old, but I mean *blah blah blah.*”  I said nothing. Just wanted to get out as soon as possible.

So I left.  And I was really going to let it go.  Until I got home and realized I forgot to get something.  I went back up to the store the next day, and while I was getting my item I asked if I could speak with the manager.  I was told the manager wasn’t there but the assistant manager was.  Well it turns out that the assistant manager was the one who was in the back sweeping the evening before.  So at this point I was like, WELP.  I realized there was no point in complaining.  An assistant manager was there and clearly they felt comfortable carrying out that way in front of her.  I understood now.  So again, I just grabbed my stuff, paid for it, and went on my way.

My expectations for situation 1

People want to go home. I. GET. IT.  TRUUUUUUUST me I get it.  I’m ready to go when it’s time for me to go as well. And I also understand getting annoyed when last minute customers come in (I honestly didn’t know they closed at 8). I get it. BUT.  Seeing as though it still IS during store hours, and you ARE open, and I AM spending money there, I just think there was a better way of handling this.  I don’t even mind letting me know that you are about to close.

My expectation is that I was greeted with something like, “Hello, welcome to Sally’s.  Just to let you know, we’ll be closing in 8 minutes. Let me know if we can help you with anything.”  Even leaving off that last part would’ve been fine.  But. Yeah.  That would’ve been a MUCH better way to greet your customers.  At least that’s how I feel.

Situation 2

So my family had me up in Black-eyed Pea (10999 Northwest Freeway, Houston TX, 77092) today after church.  Which is fine, cause I actually like their food.  And it’s where my great aunt wanted to go so, that’s that.

Anyway, our waiter brought out the rolls and cornbread without plates.  My mom asked him if he could bring us out some plates. His response was, “I’m just waiting for them to get out of the dishwasher and then I’ll get them to you.” Turns out only two of us got bread plates.  My mom and I got coffee saucers. SMH

The rolls he brought out were kind of burnt.  So my aunt asked him if it was possible that we could get some that weren’t quite so dark. His response was, “Well I’ll see what I can do I mean they cook them back there so I can only get what they have. But I’ll see what I can do.”  All of us were speechless (my aunt told him thank you).

Next, I ordered my food.  Told him exactly what I wanted on my baked potato, and I ordered a side salad with my meal.  My meal came out.  Baked potato was wrong (but I ate it because it wasn’t anything on there that I just hated), and I never got my salad.  So when he came back around I said, “You can just take the salad off of my ticket.” He said, “Okay.”  I paused, looked at him, then said, “Since … I never got it…” He again said, “Okay.”

In that same moment I asked for some hot sauce.  He brought me a brand new bottle, with the wrapper still on.  I said, “thank you.” My aunt looked at me and said, “Am I missing something, here?”  I told her if she was then I was too…..

We asked someone for some extra napkins and it turned out that she was the hostess.  She stood there and said, “I may have to tell Edwin to do it. I’m not…well…let me see, I’ll try to do it.  Well, yes, I’ll get them for you.”  Again, we were like…”huh”?

My expectations for situation 2

We ask for bread plates, he says, “Yes, I’ll bring them right out.” Period.

We ask for rolls that aren’t burnt, he says, “Sorry about that, I’ll get you some more.”

I tell him nevermind about something that I wanted, but never got, he says, “I apologize, I can still get it for you if you’d like…”

We ask for extra napkins, she says, “Sure, I’ll let your waiter know.”

I was thinking about speaking with the manager, but again I was just like, I wanna be out of here. I just wanna finish my meal, pay, and go. It was really crazy because while I don’t go there often, my mom and great aunt do.  They said they’ve never experienced service like that (and neither had I the times I went). There was another waitress that came and actually brought us our food and she was soooo pleasant and nice.  I know his responses may not seem that bad but his attitude with it made for a pretty…umm…interesting…experience.  Also, the table next to us was complaining about their waitress. Her response was less than okay as well. At one point I heard her tell them, “I have no idea.” Just….huh?

Neither one of these situations are earth shattering, but at the same time, it shows that there is a lack of customer service training (in my opinion).  Don’t get me started on my experiences in Walmart.  I’m like, if you don’t want to be here, just…don’t take it out on the people that don’t have anything to do with it, you know?

Anyway, what do you all think? Am I expecting too much?  Have you had similar experiences? Worse? Talk to me!

 

So. About this whole women proposing to men thing…

Before I even start this, let me say that I am aware that it is a woman’s decision to do this, and if it works for them then it works for them.  I am also aware that I am what I guess would now be considered “traditional” when it comes to this.

I saw this on Twitter a couple of days ago.

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And the only thing that came to my mind was:

There is NO way. None. No way.

And again, I am aware that this is mainly because I am of the belief that a man comes to a decision that he wants a wife, wants *her* to be his wife, and then asks her.  Why are women wanting to take this responsibility off of men? Is it lack of patience? Desire for control? What is it?

I saw one response where a man said that his wife “loved him enough” to ask him to marry him. Sooooo if she DIDN’T ask, and accepted your proposal, that means her love was…less?

Now. It could be that this couple had a discussion and decided they were ready and something in her spirit told her this was the way to get it done quicker.  Maybe that’s it.  But then again, I’d have to ask myself why I wasn’t willing to wait for him and MOST of all, why HASN’T he asked me to marry him?

This isn’t the first photograph I’ve seen like this.  I saw one on Facebook a while ago.  That proposal happened in a club.  And the man looked so unimpressed.  She was on the floor and everything.  No. Just….no.

I stumbled across a Wiki, “How To Propose To Your Boyfriend.” Y’all, look at this.

Reach your own sense of comfort with making this move. There is no reason that a woman cannot make a proposal to a man these days.[1] What may be holding you back is fairytale visions, concerns about the man’s feelings, and simply getting up thecourage to ask something that can carry the risk of rejection.

  • Be sure that he is “the one” and that you are totally ready for this commitment before launching in. How will this change your life and can you see yourself as being fulfilled with such changes?

Gauge your boyfriend’s chances of proposing to you. Before you do consider proposing, be alert to the possibility that he might be considering proposing.

I had to stop there (I read the rest of the “steps” later).  The fact that it says to gauge the likelihood that you’re about to be proposed to tells me all I need to know. And be sure that “you” are ready for this commitment?  WHAT. ABOUT. HIM. In fact, the reason he hasn’t asked is probably because he ISN’T ready.  Which leads me to my original thought, and that is this move is done in the midst of getting impatient/fed up/etc. etc. etc. Now, don’t get me wrong, there IS a such thing as a man taking too long to propose.  And if that’s the case, then no, you don’t try to *make* the situation happen, you either choose to stick it out, or you leave.

For example.  Let’s take Angie Stone.  She’s been with her dude for 8+ years.  She’s brought up marriage to him at least three times (I’m sure it’s been more but that’s just what WE saw), and every time he came up with some excuse.  Or said, “when the time is right” or some vague ish like that. Now. If Tasha was Angie, Tasha would break it off.  If you haven’t figured out you want me to be your wife in almost a decade, then we don’t need to be together.

ANYWAY. Yeah, no.  I just scrolled back up to the picture above and just…no. LOL. I AM curious to know the dynamics of that relationship, though.  That might be telling.  But like I said before, whatever works for that couple, ya know?

I’m interested to hearing from the men on this one.  I saw some reactions to it the other day, and most of them wasn’t for it.  They said it was kind of emasculating, and felt like it would put them in a negative light because she “had” to do that.

What say you?

LHHATL: “Life Happens” (S:3, E: 13 – Review)

So after the whole “Joseline in New York without Stevie” situation (addressed below) I guess I’ll just continue to review this show as if I don’t know it’s completely fake.

Let’s go.

Mimi

– *rolls eyes*

– Mimi is dumb and blind. And simple.  She’s really really simple.

– “Nikko may get on my nerves, but he’s been here through all this bullsh*t.” Unbelievable.  It’s unbelievable how dumb she is. OF COURSE he’s going to be there.  He’s HAPPY. ANNNND he’s trying to get you to do another one. Yeah, I peeped it when he said, “These people are mad. We need to make them madder.”

– Mimi is acting like she has the upper hand because Benzino is asking her to be on the cover of Hip Hop Weekly.  HIP HOP WEEKLY, guys….because she made a porn. And she said she’s “ecstatic” with nothing to apologize for.  Ok.

– BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! $10,000!?!?!?!?!?!?

– THIS. DUMB. BROAD. HERE. Y’all WHAT? Ha ha ha! She didn’t know that her picture can get used anyway! LMAO And this attitude of hers? No ma’am.

– Why did she even let Erica come over when she was dealing with this with her father (*cough* MONA *cough*)????

Kaleena

– Her song sounds cool.

-HOLD. THE. HELL. UP.  She’s PREGNANT!?  When she *can’t* take care of her first kid?

– She said she’s nervous because of how her husband may react. Tuh.  Like she got pregnant by herself. Ok.

– You tell your husband you’re pregnant and his first response is, “How that happen?” LOL  But after the shock wore off he was sweet.

Joseline

– She’s still saying that she hasn’t seen Stevie since she left to go kick it with K. Michelle in New York

BUT….

 

LIES.

I guess when she posted this picture back in April, Mona hadn’t told her that she was supposed to be in a fight with Stevie J and not seeing him.

OOPS.

– One thing about Joseline is that she has kept me laughing…HARD…this entire season. Her little monologues have me DYING. “If you bring me back a disease you’re gonna be 6ft under and Imma be on First 48.” LOL

– Joseline is delusional. LOL. Really acting like she’s about to leave Stevie. Girl he is your manager, fake husband, AND drug dealer. You ain’t going nowhere, sis. And we ALLLL know it.

Benzino

– Benzino is thinking business, which I get, but I’m happy to see that Stevie at least wasn’t comfortable with it.  He’s having an issue with “celebrating” Mimi and her new role as a porn star. And rightfully so.

– Oh Benzino moved forward without getting word back from Stevie? Whew.

– “You can choose your dress! Cause you’re going on this m**f** cover.” LMAOOOO!!! With his arm in that sling! LOLOLOL!! Whew!

Scrappy

– Okay guys.  I’m a cheesy romantic.  So the awkwardness of him giving Bambi the roses and cheesing and stuff…I love it.  I noticed that I’m sitting here with THE biggest grin on my face. LOL

– Was this a proposal? I’m confused. And is this show done in dog years? Everything happens so soon.

– Oh wait, so it’s NOT an engagement ring? What part of the game is this!?

– Promise ring.  How old is he again? I mean, if that’s what you want to do then cool, but you gotta do a whole different presentation. Like, you gotta say “I got you a promise ring” before you even bring it out. And it’s gotta be….smaller than that or something. Cause look….

Mama Dee

– UGH. THIS ish.

“Without my permission?” <— This, plus the contortions of her face and later reactions, is so very concerning.

Erica

– Self-destruction. Yes, Erica.  That’s exactly what’s happening with Mimi.

– I like Erica cause she’s straight to the point, and she’s honest.

“The Discussion”

Honestly, I maintain that I simply just couldn’t be Mimi’s friend anymore.  Her blatantly lying to me in my face would be the end of the line for me. That is not a sex tape.  The company didn’t take your sex tape and make it into that kind of a production. Insulting my intelligence with a lie is unacceptable.

Erica, Rasheeda, and Ariane made a GREAT point about Nikko as a man.  Mimi is saying that he’s “about the money,” at the expense of her as a woman…with a young child. Mimi does a porn and doesn’t expect to hear ANY negativity from her “friends.” Ok.

HOWEVER, Mimi DOES have a point.  And from here on out, if Ariane is going to stay friends with Mimi she needs to keep her mouth shut about who Mimi decides to be with.  That’s what I would do, anyway.  There would be ZERO discussions about her love life and decisions thereof.

No, Erica. You don’t “have” to trust her, when you KNOW she’s lying. That’s not friendship.

I guess we shall see how Mona capitalizes off of the death of Mimi’s dad next week.