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Master P checks Charlamagne real quick on The Breakfast Club {Video}

Charlamagne often gets WAY out of line, especially when it comes to women, and masks it as jokes. Well, Master P wasn’t having it.

This is the entire interview, but to get to the part I’m talking about, go to the 24:24 mark.

Word to Master P!

I wish more men would do this. And he was quick to let him know that no, she’s not my family, but she’s a woman and you’re being disrespectful.

Period.

 

Stephen A. Smith thinks Marshawn Lynch should be fined daily, Arian Foster checks him real quick

If there’s anything we know, it’s that Arian Foster can hold his own… as we see right here:

BYE STEPHEN! You’re outta there! Ding ding ding! TKO!

Arian was all like, “Yeah, you can talk…but then Imma just tell you why you’re wrong, soooo…..”

I REALLY need someone to explain to me how the media feels like they are the reason the players get paid? And Arian is absolutely correct, nowhere does it say how a player HAS to respond. Honestly, the media is blowing this WAY out of proportion. Why not just leave Marshawn Lynch alone. He doesn’t want to talk. I mean…Richard Sherman has diarrhea at the mouth. Go talk to him!

Fine him $25,000 a day? BYE Stephen.

You know, this reminds me of a situation where a person wants you more when they figure out you don’t want them. So they step up their efforts, you know? It’s actually quite disturbing.

Oh well. That’s that. Well done, Arian.

 

Marshawn Lynch is really just not here for y’all.

We’ve seen what’s happened in the previous media exchanges in the press conferences with Marshawn Lynch (“I’m here so I won’t get fined” & “You know why I’m here).  But today, he brought some truth to the media:

I laughed. And I laughed hard.

What’s interesting to me is that some media outlets are saying that without them, the players wouldn’t be getting payed???

HOW.

Anyway,Marshawn has a point. Like, he’s told you it’s not happening. Sooooo why are you here?

And that guy tried it with the charity question. Marshawn had something for that too. Love it.

Also, peep how, not only does he wear the cap the NFL threatened to fine him for, but he also tells you where you can purchase it (Beastmodeonline.com)!!!! HA!

Kyle Norman (Jagged Edge) arrested for beating up fiance/shoving ring down her throat

Guys…

Police were called to a home on Peters Street about a fight between an engaged couple.

When police arrived, they were met by the victim who said she had gotten into an argument with her fiance, Kyle Norman, about his drinking.

Police stated in their report that the victim’s eyes had welts under them and there was a golf ball sized knot on her upper left forehead. She also had a cut to her nose and it appeared as if she had a blood clot in her right eye that had burst.

The victim told police Norman punched and choked her with a scarf and shoved her engagement ring down her throat choking her more.

According to police, Norman took away the victim’s car keys and broke her cell phone, refusing to let her leave.

The victim told police she began to agree with things that he was saying in an attempt to calm him down. Once he walked away, she ran and grabbed his cell phone and was able to run outside and wake up a neighbor who let her inside.

An officer saw Norman running down the sidewalk and as he pulled up, Norman turned around and shouted, “I need to go to jail.”

Norman told police he was upset about his dad having cancer and that’s the reason he got so mad at his fiance.

The victim was taken to Atlanta Medical Center.

Norman was taken to jail and charged with aggravated assault.

{Hip Hop Headquarters}

Well, he got one thing right.  He needs to go to jail.

Took her keys. Broke her cell phone. Hit her. Repeatedly. Choked her. And shoved. her. ring. down. her. throat.

She’s lucky to have gotten out of this alive.

Upset about his dad’s cancer? You cry and vent about that. Not beat on your woman. Nope.

Also, I hope that his fiance takes the hint and…won’t remain his fiance.

Mental Health: Black Men and Depression

As some of you know, mental health is a very passionate topic for me.  And one demographic and disorder that I feel needs to be targeted is black men and depression.

I think the “be strong always” message is used toward black men to their detriment. A lot are emotionally suppressed and stuffy.  This buildup can eventually lead to some pretty damaging feelings, one of those being depression.  While I believe this information could be the same for all men, no matter the race/ethnic background, I’m convinced that black men just have a bit more to deal with when one factors in things like oppression, etc.

Depression isn’t just “feeling down.”  All of us have our days when we are feeling a little blue or off. Clinical depression is persistent, and can be debilitating. Words/feelings that are associated with it include hopelessness and despair. It’s nothing to make light of.

Which is why I am sharing the following information that was pointed out to me by a reader:

Common signs of depression in men can include (via BlackDoctor.org):

1. Sleeping Too Much Or Too Little

Sleep problems—such as insomnia, waking up very early in the morning, or excessive sleeping—are common depression symptoms.

Guys, this is one of the biggest red flags. I’d argue some sort of sleep issue is present in most people who are dealing with depression.

2. Pain

Health problems such as constipation or diarrhea, as well as headaches and back pain, are common in people who are depressed.

But men often don’t realize that chronic pain and digestive disorders go hand in hand with depression, according to focus groups conducted by the National Institute of Mental Health. Norman Sussman, MD, a professor of psychiatry at the NYU Langone Medical Center, says people who are depressed do genuinely feel bad physically.

3. Loss of Focus

Psychomotor retardation can slow down a man’s ability to process information, thereby impairing concentration on work or other tasks.

“Depression fills one with negative thoughts, almost like an intrusion,” Klapow says. “You’re slowed down and constantly thinking about negative things in your world. As a result it makes it very difficult to focus on anything.”

I think being distracted from time to time is close to the norm for a lot of us. But to the point where you are not able to focus on your day to day tasks is not.  Seek help!

4. Anger

 

Some men manifest depression by being hostile, angry, or aggressive, says. Dr. Sussman. “A man who realizes something is wrong may need to compensate by demonstrating that he is still strong or capable,” he says.

Also, anger is usually a secondary emotion.  It stems from hurt.

5. Stress

“Men might be more likely to report symptoms of depression as stress. It’s not that they have more stress; it’s that it’s more socially acceptable to report it,” Klapow says.

According to Dr. Cook, stress and depression can also travel a two-way street. “It’s accurate to say that feeling stressed can be an indicator of having clinical depression but also be part of the cause,” he says.

Research has shown that prolonged exposure to stress can lead to changes both in the body and brain, which can in turn lead to depression.

6. Substance Abuse

Substance abuse frequently accompanies depression. Research has shown that alcoholics are almost twice as likely to suffer from major depression as people without a drinking problem.

“It can happen for both men and women, but using drugs or alcohol to mask uncomfortable feelings is a strategy many men will employ instead of seeking health care,” says Dr. Cook.

“There’s a cultural bias of, ‘I should be able to fix this myself and so I’ll use what chemicals I have available to me to do that,’” Dr. Cook says.

Yes. Yes yes yes. First of all, understand that there’s a reason you’re continuing to have to use substances to deal. It’s because IT ISN’T HELPING.  Some substances (alcohol!) are depressants. They exacerbate your symptoms. And using your high as a way to escape/mask your feelings simply isn’t going to work. Again, it WILL make things worse. Why? Eventually you’re going to have to come down from your high. 

Then what? (I imagine the answer here from some of you is, “get high again.” And I mean…..)

7. Sexual Dysfunction

Depression is a common reason for loss of desire and erectile dysfunction (ED), and it’s one symptom that men are inclined not to report. “Performance problems can come from depression and make depression worse,” Dr. Cook says.

However, ED can be the result of other medical conditions or medications (including antidepressants), and ED by itself does not signal depression.

“My strong recommendation…is that you can’t go after one symptom; it’s a group of symptoms,” Klapow says.

8. Suicidal Thoughts

Women are more likely to attempt suicide, but men are more than four times as likely to die if they do attempt suicide. One reason is that men tend to choose more lethal methods.

“They more often use firearms and kill themselves the first time they try,” Dr. Cook says.

Older men are at highest risk for suicide, and doctors may miss depression symptoms in this group. In fact, more than 70% of older suicide victims saw their primary care physician within the month of their death.

A suicidal thought. A. One. That is when it’s time to seek help (in my opinion). That may seem dramatic for some people, but if that is something that has crept up in your mind as a solution, then what is the harm in talking to someone about it? You may not be *seriously* considering it, but still, that’s not a safe thought to keep to yourself.

The thing to keep in mind is that clinical depression isn’t necessarily one of these symptoms all by itself. And it’s not a one time, feeling kind of down for a few days, kind of thing either.  Clinical depression is persistent. And it literally interferes with your daily functioning.

Here is information and time periods for depression diagnoses:

Major Depressive Disorder – symptoms for 2 weeks (see also, Major Depressive Episode)

Dysthymia – symptoms for at least 2 years

This is nothing to play with. If you are experiencing these symptoms, even if it isn’t quite on this level, then it’s worth speaking with a mental health professional about.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking help and taking care of yourself.

Please believe that.