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“There has been times where I looked in the mirror and hated the person I see.” – Chris Brown

Chris Brown needs a hug and intense therapy, y’all.

I'm Konfuzed, I always thought I knew the concept of love. Fame and Money can get in the way of that. Most of my issues always deal with love and me being in my feelings. Not to mention me being a dog sometimes. I can't speak for everyone but I can say that my actions contributed a lot to my karma. Being jealous and angry and controlling. There has been times where I looked in the mirror and hated the person I see. I talk to God a lot now. He's given me so much and I feel like I waste his gifts becuz of my impulsive personality. The world is full of negativity and I feel I play a part in it becuz of the choices I've made or mistakes. I tend to accept the negative or the riff raff becuz I know what it's like to be a young black "nigga" in America. I always see the good in people even when they don't see it. I love others more than myself at times. Everything u see on the surface does not reflect what's inside. This is my white flag. I surrender to life and all its blessings. I refuse to be petty and attention seeking. To know me is to love me. Good Bad UGLY! Sincerely, Konfuzed

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“I’m Konfuzed, I always thought I knew the concept of love. Fame and Money can get in the way of that. Most of my issues always deal with love and me being in my feelings. Not to mention me being a dog sometimes. I can’t speak for everyone but I can say that my actions contributed a lot to my karma. Being jealous and angry and controlling. There has been times where I looked in the mirror and hated the person I see. I talk to God a lot now. He’s given me so much and I feel like I waste his gifts becuz of my impulsive personality. The world is full of negativity and I feel I play a part in it becuz of the choices I’ve made or mistakes. I tend to accept the negative or the riff raff becuz I know what it’s like to be a young black “nigga” in America. I always see the good in people even when they don’t see it. I love others more than myself at times. Everything u see on the surface does not reflect what’s inside. This is my white flag. I surrender to life and all its blessings. I refuse to be petty and attention seeking. To know me is to love me. Good Bad UGLY! Sincerely, Konfuzed”

Between the back and forth (threatening Tyson Beckford over a selfie with Karrueche, then apologizing), and him continually emoting on social media, it’s clear that everything isn’t alright.

I keep wondering where are his friends? Where is his family? Where are the people who really care for him and know him outside of “Chris Brown?”

Every single time he is out there for negative reasons it makes me cringe because of the kind of artist (and person, I guess) I feel like he COULD be. It’s not too late, but he really needs a lot of support and to be surrounded by people who care more about him and his well-being than about the fame and money.

I fear he is headed down a terrible path of self destruction, and it really doesn’t have to be that way. He said he’s talking to God a lot these days, and that is GREAT. But he also needs to use the resources God has out here for him and get some help. ESPECIALLY since he has a little girl to help raise.

Adrian Peterson went on a little Twitter rant yesterday.

This happened:

(WELP!)

Annnnnd then this happened:

*sigh*

(uh oh. buuuuut I’m sure that’s addressed…in the contract, yes?)

(free will.)

(the clarification LOL)

(“not against the Vikings”)

 

So.

I don’t know much about any of this, however, it just seems like a really bad idea.

Here’s more via ESPN:

The 30-year-old running back’s series of tweets came a day after he released a statement to ESPN, hinting he wants the Vikings to add guaranteed money to a contract that currently has none and saying he is skipping the start of the team’s organized activities because he wants to secure his future in Minnesota.

Peterson’s deal runs through 2017 and is scheduled to pay him $12.75 million this season. He would make $15 million in 2016 and $16 million in 2017, including $250,000 workout bonuses each season, but there is no guaranteed money left in his contract and the Vikings would face no penalty for releasing him.

Peterson told ESPN in February he was “still uneasy” about returning to the Vikings, believing the team had not supported him properly after he was indicted on child injury charges in September and calling the Vikings’ decision to put him on the commissioner’s exempt list an “ambush.” At the time, Peterson said his family had concerns about returning to Minnesota and added that he might prefer a fresh start with another team.

The Vikings, however, have maintained they will not trade Peterson, and they passed up what might have been their best chance to deal the running back during the NFL draft. After Peterson skipped the start of the Vikings’ organized team activities this week, coach Mike Zimmer said Peterson had two choices — “he can play for us or not play.”

A Vikings source said the team has never asked Peterson to take a pay cut, and it has seemed unlikely all spring that the team would do so as it tried to mend its relationship with the 30-year-old running back. Peterson, however, now seems to be seeking protection for the final years of his contract, while arguing other players should receive the same benefit.

Whew.

Well, I guess we shall see how this all turns out. Looks a little messy right now, huh?

 

Dwyane Wade wants you to see his weight loss, ANNNND his FIERCE toenail polish.

Not click bait.

See for yourself…

So.

Yeah. He’s losing weight.

And he’s also getting his toes polished on the regular (over a 30 day period).

Seeking attention? Prolly.

But at least he doesn’t have terrible looking feet.

What if you never find love?

I stopped reading Thought Catalog a while ago, mainly because there was an attempt at “satire” or something on there that was highly distasteful and offensive. I can’t even remember what it was about, to be honest. However, today I saw an article entitled,“Read This If You’re Worried That You’ll Never Find ‘The One'”.

Actually, I’d seen it a few times and ignored it, but decided to go ahead and click it. And I’m very happy that I did.

I encourage you to go read it in it’s entirety, but there are two parts that I wanted to highlight.

If you knew that love would never be an option for you, what would be? How would you structure the rest of your life? Would it have a heavier focus on career, a stronger inclination toward success? Or would you use the time to invest in yourself – go on a few more vacations, travel further outside your comfort zone? If you knew that you would never again feel the rush of budding romance, where would you turn to for your thrills? How would you get your blood pumping?

And what about your other relationships – would they suddenly take on more weight? Would you spend more time appreciating your family, if you knew that they are the people who will have loved you the most strongly at the end of your life? What about your friendships? Would you nurture and care more for the people who love you platonically if you knew that nobody would ever love you romantically? Would you show up a little more often, share a little more of your life?

My inclination is to believe that never finding love would be a game-changer for most of us. One we’d initially consider to be devastating but may eventually realize is the ultimate liberation. Without the fear of ending up alone, the opportunities open to you would become endless. You could live on every continent. You could scale the corporate ladder. You could go back to school and get that degree you’ve always felt interested in, without worrying about the financial burden your debt may place on somebody else. Love holds us back in an infinite amount of subtle ways that perhaps we do not even realize. And the guarantee of its absence may just be the ultimate sense of liberation.

Whoa.

This is…spot on.

My story —> There was a time when I was strictly family oriented. Career? Blah. I mean, as long as I had gainful employment then so what, right? This was honestly my thought process, even after finishing my first master’s degree and starting my first job out of graduate school. At that point, I was in a relationship and I was SOOOOOO happy. I mean, that is where my focus was. And it seemed to be heading in a direction that I wanted, a family. So all was well.

Until that relationship ended.

It was then when I was forced to face other areas of my life and it was then that I discovered that I HATED my job. And that is when I started making moves in my career. That’s when I got focused on what I really wanted to do. What would make me happy in that area.

I’m not saying that the desire to have a family is completely gone, but what I AM saying is that I was forced to look to other areas for “happiness” and fulfillment when I no longer had the joy of my relationship.

What’s funny is that my best friend and I had this conversation last year (I think). We were talking about me and my lack of a serious relationship at the time. She told me that she thought that God kept me single for that season because if I was in a relationship she seriously doubted I would be making the moves that I was at that moment. At that point, I was heading toward finishing my second master’s degree (in my desired field!!) and was contemplating applying for a doctoral program (I did. And got accepted.).  I immediately agreed with her. For me, I HIGHLY doubt I would’ve wanted to take the time/money away from my family that I had to invest into that master’s degree while working full time.

But still, after reading this article, I reflected and found out that there are still things that I hold back on (at times) in hopes of a relationship.

Hm.

The second part of this article I wanted to share:

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for. Live your life as if you are the love of it. Because that’s the only thing you know for sure – that through every triumph, every failure, every fear and every gain that you will ever experience until the day you die, you are going to be present. You are going to be the person who shows up to accept your rewards. You are going to be the person who holds your own hand when you’re broken. You are going to be the person who gets yourself up off the floor every time you get knocked down and if those things are not love-of-your-life qualities, I don’t know what are.

We have to start appreciating all that we bring to our own lives. Because the ironic truth is, you are most attractive when you’re not worried about who you’re attracting. When you’re living your life confidently, freely and without restraint, you emit the kind of energy that it just isn’t possible to fake. The kind of energy that’s capable of transforming not just your own life, but the lives of people around you.

So stop looking for The One to spend the rest of your life with. Be The One.

And let everybody else come searching for you.

Yes.

Yes yes yes yes yes.

I think it’s normal to feel some sort of way about the thought of not ever finding someone, but, it does us single folk a disservice to harp on that. What’s the point? If it’s not gonna happen, we may as well ride this whole life thing until the wheels fall off, right?

So yeah. It’ll take more reflecting from me, and A LOT of cognitive restructuring, but this is a promise I’m making to myself. Live my life for and with myself and the ones who I love and who love me that are in it right now.

This sounds much better than trying to “prepare” my life for something that just may not happen.

I’ll live, and let him just find me, if it shall be. 🙂

Booker T. Washington/HSEP students (Houston, Texas) print 3-D hand for 6 year old girl.

Booker T. Washington High School and the High School for Engineering Professions.

These are the kinds of stories that warm my heart.

And what makes it extra special (for me) is that this is the high school I graduated from (I was in the engineering program, which is where I found out engineering was NOT my gift. Amen.)!

 

Gracie Henderson was born without part of her left arm and hand. Students at Booker T. Washington created a 3-D printed hand that contains three fingers.

“I want to pick apples with it,” said Gracie.

“It’s not just a gift to her but it’s a gift to me because I know I’m helping her,” student Shemia Anderson.

Gracie has had other prosthetics but she out grew them. The students are making final adjustments and Gracie should be picking apples in no time.

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I’m over here all the way in my feelings!

So proud of these students, and I hope Gracie will be able to pick ALL of the apples and take her dog on ALL of the walks!

Good look.

Proud to be an Eagle.