Yes, I am a bible believing Christian, but no, my head isn’t about to explode over gay marriage.

I need to start off by saying that I tried to do this in a YouTube video because it was just TOO MUCH to type out. Well, that failed. Horribly. Repeatedly. So I gave up. I decided to leave it alone, but then I changed my mind again. So here I am….attempting to write coherently, yet succinctly.

I am a bible believing Christian who was raised in the church. I believe the word of God is true and doesn’t change.

Having said that, if you were to ask me how I feel biblically about homosexuality/gay marriage, most of you (if not all) know exactly what bible verse I’m going to refer you to. So that is that. Again, I believe the word is the word, and it is clear.

Now. If you were to then ask me how I feel about gay marriage from a non-biblical perspective, I would say that I 100% understand it. It makes COMPLETE sense to me.

Most of the arguments and the strong reactions I’ve seen against the ruling has to do with a spiritual perspective. The mistake here is 1. assuming that everybody subscribes to the Christian faith (they don’t) and 2. not understanding what the Supreme Court’s role is.

The argument that was in front of the Supreme Court was not, WAS NOT, a spiritual one.

The argument that was in front of the Supreme Court was a LEGAL one. And when thinking about and understanding it in those terms, there was not a legal leg the court could’ve stood on to come to any other decision than they did.

This morning, my bishop said that marriage is a biblical institution, not a civil one. And I agree. BUT. That is not the same view that everyone else holds. Also, the fact of the matter is that marriage DOES have legal components in it, hence the term, “legally married.”

If you would’ve asked me a few years ago how I felt about gay marriage, I may have had a different/stronger point of view. But then I saw a video. It was about a man who came out to his family. His family disowned him. Threw him out and all of that. They were from the south (Texas, if I’m not mistaken). He ended up moving up north with his partner. After a while, he got really ill. His boyfriend took care of him. Did EVERYTHING for him. He was his caretaker. Well, one day he ended up in the hospital, and died. The boyfriend had NO legal recourse. The family was contacted and they took him back home and shut the boyfriend out completely. He wasn’t allowed to go to the funeral or anything. He got a program because the sister “snuck” it in the mail to him (I can’t find the vid, if one of you can, please share).

This was mean. And watching the video made me cry. Nobody should have to go through that.

A reader knew what I was talking about and gave me the link. It’s actually a movie! I didn’t know. I just saw like a 5 minute clip. Here it is (I haven’t watched it yet):

This is when I really understood what the fight was about. And I get it.

I’ve never understood the church’s obsession with gay marriage. I just don’t get it. If the “gay” part is the issue then all of this focus and fight is totally misplaced. Gay marriage being legalized isn’t going to *make* anybody gay, and if gay marriage wasn’t legalized, it wasn’t going to make gays say, “Oh! Well then I’m not gay anymore!” So I honestly just don’t understand the strong reactions and efforts toward gay marriage by the church.

The best analogy I can give is that of someone who is sick..let’s say with the flu.


So let’s say I have the flu. As a result of being sick, I’m sneezing and have a runny nose. So I start taking antihistamine.  This only addresses the SYMPTOMS. It does NOTHING for the issue.

If the church wants to address homosexuality, why oh why is so much energy being given to gay marriage? That is simply the result. Gay marriage has NOTHING to do with people identifying as gay and lesbian. Nothing.

It is my personal opinion that the church has gone about addressing homosexuality in a way that has come off hateful and judgmental. It is in this that people have left the church or felt pushed out, and that should NEVER be the result, or the goal, of a faith whose GREATEST commandment is to love. We’ve got some work to do.

I don’t feel my spirituality has been jeopardized by the SCOTUS’ decision. I don’t feel like biblical marriage has been jeopardized in ANY way.

I honestly believe that if believers were to look at the Supreme Court for what it is, A COURT OF LAW, and not as something they WANT it to be, an extension of the faith and an institution to uphold the bible, then the ruling would make more sense. There is NO legal argument that could reverse the SCOTUS’ decision (however, if you have one, I’d really love to hear it).  States have legalized gay marriage, but couples have been told, “Yeah you’re married, but you don’t get the same benefits as other married couples.” COME ON GUYS. You KNOW that isn’t okay. It’s discriminatory. And that is something I don’t tolerate. Discrimination and hate.

I want to take some time to say that I appreciate how my pastor approached this issue during his sermon. He simply spoke on sin, period. In fact, I left convicted about my own stuff.

All in all, my point of view is that grown people have the right to be who they are, and be with who they want to be with. They have that RIGHT. No matter what my particular faith has to say about it, people have the right to do what they want to do in their romantic lives and they should be able to do this without being discriminated against or being subjected to hate.

Also, people have the right to feel how they feel about the decision. Just because someone disagrees, that doesn’t mean they are hateful, a bigot, or homophobic. However, there IS a way to disagree with the decision without being mean and hateful. People shouldn’t be attacked just because they have a different view.

In conclusion, I am going to leave with this thought:

If you don’t “agree with” gay marriage, don’t go to a gay wedding.

Peace and love to you all.


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