^^ My reaction to this.
Read this from Thought Catalog, “I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry”
Every time I hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes I have to fight back vomit.
Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself? There’s no way those two things are the same. It’s hard for me to believe it’s not just verbally placating these people so they don’t get in trouble with the mommy bloggers.
Having kids and getting married are considered life milestones. We have baby showers and wedding parties as if it’s a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with. These aren’t accomplishments, they are actually super easy tasks, literally anyone can do them. They are the most common thing, ever, in the history of the world. They are, by definition, average. And here’s the thing, why on earth are we settling for average?
If women can do anything, why are we still content with applauding them for doing nothing?
I want to have a shower for a woman when she backpacks on her own through Asia, gets a promotion, or lands a dream job not when she stays inside the box and does the house and kids thing which is the path of least resistance. The dominate cultural voice will tell you these are things you can do with a husband and kids, but as I’ve written before, that’s a lie. It’s just not reality.
You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids.
I hear women talk about how “hard” it is to raise kids and manage a household all the time. I never hear men talk about this. It’s because women secretly like to talk about how hard managing a household is so they don’t have to explain their lack of real accomplishments. Men don’t care to “manage a household.” They aren’t conditioned to think stupid things like that are “important.”
Women will be equal with men when we stop demanding that it be considered equally important to do housework and real work. They are not equal. Doing laundry will never be as important as being a doctor or an engineer or building a business. This word play is holding us back.
WHERE DO I START!?
I guess I can start with saying BYE, SIS. Cause all of this is a bunch of bull. ALL. OF. IT.
The next thing I would like to say is to GROW. UP.
Listen. I have NO desire, and I mean ZERO, to backpack through ANYWHERE. Not a single step. NOPE. And if I would’ve gone to school to be a doctor, engineer, or whatever else *she* thinks is “important,” then I would be in a very bad place in life right now because I would’ve failed out, damaged my self-esteem, self-concept, motivation, alladat.
WHO DOES THIS BROAD THINK SHE IS!? How are you going to impose what *YOU* think is important on ALL women? Looking down on women who have husbands and kids? Guess what? That is YOUR choice. Congratulations. But I suggest this person uses a bit more logic to form their opinions because this is an extremely limited point of view.
From the time of conception, a woman is literally growing a human being inside of her. And while all women don’t want to have children (and that is perfectly fine!), to basically say that it’s *average* or not important is gross. Literally “anybody” can do these things? Tell that to the woman who desires to have children and can’t. Applauding women for doing “nothing?” So because MY idea of purpose (wife/mother) isn’t the same as yours, you want to stop celebrating the birth of a child and weddings!?
This woman NEEDS this shirt in her life. Probably should buy out the entire supply cause she needs one for everyday. And since doing laundry isn’t important she’s gonna need a lot of them.
I’m done. But before I end, I would like to invite you all who are reading this to send me a congratulatory message for not cussing throughout this post. That’s a huge step for me. Thanks in advance.
